Posting pictures on dating sites
But since the Cleavage Shot is the feminine analogue of the Ab Shot, and an undisputed online dating archetype, we thought we should discuss it.
One final point, vis à vis men, their torsos, and the clothing thereupon: if you’re not the type of guy who can show off your muscles, don’t veer off in the opposite direction and get all dressed up.To wit: a journalist was visiting our office recently, and when we told her we were researching user photos, the first thing she said was “please tell me people hate it when guys show off their abs.” We hadn’t finished running the numbers yet, so we confidently reassured her that people did. Of course, there is some self-selection here: the guys showing off their abs are the ones with abs worth showing, and naturally the best bodies get lots of messages.So we can’t recommend this photo tactic to every man.We at first thought this was just because, typically, you can kind of see down the girl’s shirt with the camera at that angle—indeed, that seems to be the point of shot in the first place — so we excluded all cleavage-showing shots from the pool and ran the numbers again.No change: it’s still the best shot; better, in fact, than straight-up boob pics (more on those later). The male “Ab Shot” has the same reputation as the My Space Shot — it’s an Internet cliché that supposedly everyone thinks is only for bozos.In the near future, we’re going to be arranging series of blind dates through the site, and profile photo accuracy vs.
the success of the date will be a big part of the report. Our data set was chosen at random from all users in big cities, with only one profile photograph, between the ages of 18 and 32.
A message like “Hey nice rack” isn’t really gonna lead anywhere, and isn’t very valuable to the recipient. We didn’t go through anyone’s inbox to do this; we mathematically modeled a “conversation,” based number of messages back and forth.
We looked a level deeper and analyzed what resulted from the incoming contacts. And we discovered the following:even though the two women are basically the same age, spend the same amount of time on the site, have similar profile length and quality, and have the same “attractiveness” as rated by Ok Cupid’s male population.
If you want worthwhile messages in your inbox, the value of being conversation-worthy, as opposed to merely sexy, cannot be overstated.
We used to think that the one iron-clad rule of Internet dating photos was to at least show your face.
All my bar charts are zeroed on the average picture. One of the first things we noticed when diving into our pool of photos is that men and women have very different approaches to the camera.