Online dating lingo
To members of Ghosters Anonymous, Carter continued, "Until you close the door and close it completely, I can hold on to that tiny unrealistic shred of hope that you DO still want to hang out, and that maybe you’ll call (text, who am I kidding, nobody calls anymore and I hate it) and it’ll all be great." But Greg Behrendt, author of the best-selling book turned movie, , firmly believes that silence speaks louder than any words could.
But while most don't condone ghosting, that doesn't seem to influence whether they'll do it to someone else.Plus, without a conversation, you run the risk of a ghost coming back to life."When nothing else is going on those people tend to show up again, and then you're like what happened for all that other time? Writing about the subject on The Date Report in May, reporter Sara Ashley O'Brien explained that ghosting just prolongs the time it takes to move on: A simple acknowledgment of an appreciation for the time we did spend together, “Hey, I had a fun few dates with you but I don’t think we’re right for each other beyond that,” would provide so much more closure.Chelsea admits that's the case for her and a bunch of her friends. I'll ghost someone without a second thought but when it happens to me I'm the first to run to my girlfriends in disbelief saying, 'The least he could do is let me down easy,'" she said, adding, "It's probably karma." So, Is Ghosting Morally Wrong?New York-based location scout Victoria Carter protested the slow-fade in a 2013 blog post on XOJane.Chelsea, a 25-year-old Manhattanite who has been both a ghost and a ghostee says the fast-paced, onto-the-next mentality of online dating makes the need for an "it's not me, it's you," conversation irrelevant.
"Even after one or two dates they are still just a profile to you, not a person.
The likelihood is that you're not going to feel great if a relationship ends, be it one minute or a year.
So a statement like that might hurt feelings, "but it means they respect you if they care enough to be upfront with what's going on," she said.
When it comes to modern digital relationships, the rhythm of the exchange tells us as much as its literal content, and it doesn’t take any specialized skill to read between the lines.
If you’re initiating all the texts in the relationship, the recipient just isn’t that into you; if you’re not getting any texts back, the recipient isn’t into you at all.
' Well haven’t you just walked away from a million different things in your life because you weren’t into it? On the flip side, Levkoff feels offering an explanation -- even if it's a short one -- is just part of being a standup woman or man.