On dating older
) starts talking to a girl in college who, he realizes, "doesn't know what is." For your date with an older gent: as cool as it is, not everyone needs to know that you were part of an NSYNC fan club (cough cough).
Are you dating an older fellow or thinking about dipping your toes into that more mature water? Or, in Jess's (Zooey Deschanel's character, for those of you who aren't fans yet) case, don't ask about his health: "How's your prostate? Our bodies are decaying."DO relish in the fact that guys get better looking with age, but you'll always be the hot, younger girlfriend.DO treat the relationship the same as you would with a guy your own age. There's already enough pressure when it comes to dating, why add more stress and think about the age thing if you really like this dude? But I've been watching and compiled a list of DOs and DON' Ts from Jess's experience dating the sophisticated Dermot Mulroney as Fancypants, who's a whopping twelve years older.Or, you know, some version of whining about your age. With age (often) comes maturity and chivalry—take advantage!It can be tough when you and your older partner can’t share childhood commonalities (dude’s never read a book!?
), but the benefits can certainly outweigh those little things.
That said, there are not-so-little things that can cause friction too.
Keeping in mind what I’ve learned from my own relationship and anecdotes I’ve picked up from women in similar situations, I’ve outlined the perks and challenges of dating an older man. I get asked a lot of questions about my boyfriend’s finances (why else would I date someone much older, right? It’s not actually anybody’s business, but I can tell you that I’ve never dated anyone because of money.
DO be lovey dovey, but DON' T nickname him something based on his age (Fancypants is cool, though).
Does any man really like to be called your Sexy Silver Fox?
Well, my dears, you've come to the right place. DON' T complain about turning "halfway to 50" when he's "one year til 30".