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If this is not possible, designate one home as the shiva house, and those who cannot sleep there may leave after dark to go home, and return to the shiva house early in the morning.Mourners should ideally not leave the shiva house at any time.
The wick and the flame are also compared to the body and soul, and the strong bond between them.Others must take care of any errands or outside commitments for them.To be seen during the day in public would force one to put on a "public face" which is inappropriate during this time.The loss is forever, but the psychological, emotional, and spiritual healing that takes place at every stage is necessary and healthy.This article will examine the following topics: Stage one: shiva Sitting shiva Arranging the shiva house After the cemetery Timing of shiva Paying a shiva call Prayer services Leaving a shiva house The three day "shiva" Getting up from shiva Stage two: shloshim Stage three: the one-year period Annual remembrances: yizkor Yahrtzeit Unveiling of tombstone Visiting the cemetery Grief and bereavement After the burial, the immediate mourners return to a home called the "shiva house," to begin a seven day period of intense mourning. This week is called "sitting shiva," and is an emotionally and spiritually healing time where the mourners sit low, dwell together, and friends and loved ones come to comfort them with short visits referred to as "shiva calls." A person sits shiva after having lost a parent, spouse, sibling, or child.Again, shiva is a deeply personal time of reflection, coming to terms with loss and grief, and contemplating the inner spiritual dimensions of life.
The workplace draws our thoughts and feelings outward, thus if at all possible, should be avoided.
However, once shiva begins, the focus shifts to the mourners.
The mourners experience a week of intense grief, and the community is there to love and comfort and provide for their needs.
All other loved ones are also mourned, but the observances of shiva do not apply.
Ideally all of the direct mourners sit shiva in the house of the deceased, for it says, "Where a person lived, there does his spirit continue to dwell." Thus the presence of the person who has passed away is strongest in his own home. Particularly, a home of one of the direct mourners will be filled with the spirit of the loved one who is now gone.
We experience an overall feeling of physical discomfort as we totally focus on the soul of the one who has departed.